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“HOW TO IDENTIFY AND OVERCOME LUST FROM A MODERN CHRISTIAN GIRL”

ALEXA, play “Save Me” by Jelly Roll

Just kidding, I don’t even have an ALEXA

However, that song has been on repeat nonetheless and if you take the time to listen you’ll find that the song highlights the struggles that come from self destructive behaviors.

 I may not be drinking, smoking, or fornicating anymore however I have been feeling stuck and helpless lately. So much so, that It seems like an addiction in itself. 

Why am I talking about this? 

Sometimes, I feel so helpless as a modern Christian girl. Sometimes, I feel like this world can be a very hostile place especially when you try and keep values, standards, or even commandments.



I like to think of myself as Carrie Bradshaw but saved! I love fashion, shoes, my best friends and men lol And even though I’ve decided NOT TO HAVE SEX again until I’m married.. I feel like I’m pretty normal right? The desire may not there for sex however that doesn’t mean that I’m not a target for lust. In my last post I spoke very harshly about being a constant victim of lust and how frustrated it made me feel. As a writer, I feel like I have a responsibility to educate as well as express myself. 

So, in this post I would like to give you the necessary tools to overcome lust.

HOW TO OVERCOME IN THREE SIMPLE WAYS

1. Set boundaries: Be firm in who/what you are willing to allow into your life and be mindfully assertive when voicing your stipulations or concerns. Be confident in having boundaries and state them without expectations. What do I mean by that? People will hate or respect your choice - Either way, it is what it is, keep going. 

2. Pray/Meditate: When you spend adequate time with GOD and then yourself you then become more secure in who/whose you are. Your identity no longer becomes contingent upon who wants you because you are wholeheartedly comfortable in your own skin. Suddenly life becomes less about external validation and more about inner peace and happiness.

3. Avoid situations where you may be triggered: If you know that you are going to be tempted please avoid that person, place or thing immediately because there is no point to putting yourself in situations where you may compromise your own morals.

Will this take some time? 

Absolutely! 

Will you sometimes fail? 

Maybe! 

Is it worth it? Yes!

 As long as you have the determination needed to see this through.. you will succeed and lust will be a thing of the past. Accept that your life is going to look differently from how you envisioned it. But different isn’t always bad. You can really change and by doing so you will positively alter your life.

So, join me as I sacrifice my flesh to achieve a higher level of spirituality within myself and much like Carrie Bradshaw I am going to look fabulous doing so because in my opinion there. Are not enough positive examples of a true demure Christian girl that’s not here to judge or look down on others. 

Join me as I navigate life this year with a renewed heart and spirit. Come with me in the highs and lows but most importantly get into my playlist as I use song lyrics to communicate my inner most thoughts an feelings.

It takes humility to be aware of the lust in or surrounding you however if minimizing or getting rid of lust altogether means that I can experience love and life in the purest form.. I’m going to give a try each day.

I’m single on purpose, it’s time that I live my life the same way.

I chose to end this post with the song “Beautiful Stranger” by Marcus King because it’s an audio visual of how I envision love. 

Smooth, romantic and melodic. It’s important to identify how you want to be loved because so much of us are only used to how we want to be lusted after.

Think about that.



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